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My stuttering problem!! Hi I stutter alot. I'm very shy. I lack confidence. My confidence is nil. I can't face anyone due to this stuttering problem. I get very nervous whenever & wherever I have to talk or speak. My heart starts beating rapidly, I start to sweat & my body starts shaking like I'm frightened. I couldn't even able to tell my name to others. I'm unable to answer telephone. I usually ignore all my calls. I fear alot to speak & talk. This stuttering have taking my life away. Please help!!! By : Tariq Email : headache@live.com Date/time : 29/11/07 01:19:58

ID : 1 Name : Hammad Mansoor Email : h.mansoor@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Hi Tariq. I can understand the misery caused by stammering. You will need sometime to come over it, because stammering is something that is so strong in you, and has developed over years. So you cannot take control over it all of a sudden. The first things you need to do is to keep in touch with us. Our experience is that when stammerers stay in touch with each other, eventually they start to gain control over their stammering. This might be because your negative feelings towards yourself, self-hate, shame and guilt is reduced when you see/hear other people stammering. As your mind starts switching from negative side to positive side, your confidence level increases, enabling you to feel more confidence for you speech and thus you get control over your speech. The next thing is to try and attend our support group meetings. Support group meetings provide you a chance to overcome the fear of speaking. You speak as much as you want and the way you want, in front of other stammerers, without any interruption and nervousness. Remember, the more you talk, the better you get used to the sport of speaking. Another thing I will suggest is to read literature about stammering, and the support groups that take place all over the world. You can read support group information on the websites of British Stammering Association and International Stuttering Association, links to which are given on this website. We have started support groups in Karachi and soon also in Islamabad. Please tell us where you are located in Pakistan. - Just remember, stammering is not something to be ashamed of. You are just bad at the sport of speaking. If you want to master a sport, you have to play it more and more. Same is the case with your speech. Treat it like a sport. Play with it more and more. Good luck and stay in touch! :) Date/Time : 29/11/07 03:43:24

ID : 2 Name : Julia Email : j.irani@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Dear Tariq, Thank you so much for posting on our website. I understand all your feelings and fears. I too avoided the telephone, felt my heart racing, my eyes would close, and my facial muscles would tense up. The name is usually the most difficult word for most of us, and also the most embarrassing to be stuck on your name, so my friend, you're definately not alone. :) It's is a gradual process to address all these fears and it's a lot easier to do when you have support. I know that's what helped me. If you would be interested, you could join us for our support group meetings. Which city do you live in? I'm in Karachi, and we held a support group meeting on the 25th and we had a great time! You should join us if you're in the area. We're also holding support group meetings in Islamabad, if you're interested. Please feel free to email me on j.irani@pakistanstammering.org, I'd be happy to share with you what I do to help myself, what books I've read that have been very insightful, and helped me as well, and of course a support group meeting will be very beneficial for you, if you would be open to it. Please keep in touch, Julia Date/Time : 29/11/07 03:58:11

ID : 3 Name : Tariq Email : headache@live.com Answer : Thanks for your support. I'm from Jhelum but unfortunately, I don't live in pakistan, I'm in Bahrain. I need support & something to start with to control my stuttering. Thanks for your reply Date/Time : 30/11/07 00:25:06

ID : 4 Name : Hammad Mansoor Email : h.mansoor@stammering.org Answer : Hi Tariq. With you in Bahrain, I think the best support we can provide you in through telephone/internet. Anyway, keep in touch and try to feel yourself strong on your speech. Don't try to be fluent. Try to take more deep breaths, after every 4-5 words, take another breath before saying the next 4-5 words. And try to speak slowly and with a deeper tone. You have to change your tone and style of speech if you want to control your speech, as obviously your current way of speaking is not helping you. So when something is not working, you have to change it. Anyway keep in touch and good luck! :) Date/Time : 01/12/07 00:57:25

ID : 5 Name : usman siddique Email : usmaninvisible@yahoo.com Answer : hi me Usman.i read this Email which you had send to Tariq.I also stutter a lot,i need to overcome on it but ve no time to work on it.I saw you on Dawn News channel then i thought that i ll contact you to get some guidance from your side.If there is any literature which could help me so please refer.Otherwise i ll try to be intouch with you by mailing.I ve no confidence specially during Interviews I couldn't speak fluently either English or Urdu.I ve same problem like Tariq in Bahrain.So please advice me as soon as possible.i speak english with my friends and colleagues but get confused infront of my superiors. usman siddique. From Khanewal. Date/Time : 07/12/07 02:42:22

ID : 6 Name : mohsin Email : mos2003@hotmail.com Answer : hi ..i am having almost the same kinda problem as tariq has mentioned almost same and i want support i m doin LLb and for this my tongue should b perfect bt unfortunately i stammer/strut a lot when i hav some kinda pressure on me,otherwise at home n in friends are quite fine bt at some other place where many respected and strabgers are present in more than 5 in numbers, i get vv nervous though i m nt shy at all bt only due to tongue i avoid poeple. Date/Time : 07/12/07 05:36:18

ID : 7 Name : Hammad Mansoor Email : h.mansoor@stammering.org Answer : Hi Usman, you have just taken your start! Believe me if you are fully determined to control your speech, then nothing can stop you. I understand the situation in which you stammer, that's because you don't expand your comfort zone. When you talk to friend/family etc., you are fluent (as normally all of us are). But in front of strangers you stammer. That's because you are not used to speak to strangers, like other people are. So what you need to do is to give time to your speech. If you can make as many new contacts as possible. Go out on the streets and ask people about different locations/products/shops etc, which includes your feared words. You have to push yourself toward it. Just keep in mind what words you are saying. "Think before you speak" works best for us stammerers. Before saying something, give yourself a 5-6 mins time and think exactly what words you will say in your next sentence. Just expand your comfort zone and keep doing it and you will start to feel better about your speech. Take care and good luck! Date/Time : 07/12/07 22:22:45

ID : 8 Name : Hammad Mansoor Email : h.mansoor@stammering.org Answer : Dear Mohsin, first of all you need to stop thinking that there is problem in your "tongue". It's your fear that freezes you diaphragm in your chest, resulting in blocks. Please read my above post, in addition to that keep in your mind that you have to speak from your chest rather than your tongue and throat. Put pressure only on your chest. This can be done by taking a full breath before speaking a sentence, then say 4-5 words per breath and then release the remaining air in your lungs, then again take a deep breath and speak the next sentence. This will slow down your speech, and you might find it awkward to implement in front of other. But believe me, slow and eleqouent speech is much much better than stammering in front of others and makes you a good speaker - even better than many fluent speakers. I hope you get some of what I have written :) Take care Date/Time : 07/12/07 22:51:14

ID : 9 Name : shariq rai Email : shariqrai@yahoo.com Answer : hello to all of u..i read all the postscripts..inshallah Allah will help us to cope with our stammering..i went through my school and college life with fun and joy not concidering the stammering a hurdle but now im going to study in a medical college which make me nervous due to my stammering..now adays i often stammer and it seems like my stammering is going to be increased..hammad! i wish to join ur group to recover my spech disorder..kindly tell me when will u start in rawalpindi or islamabad..b'bye Date/Time : 10/12/07 23:27:00

ID : 10 Name : Julia Email : j.irani@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Hi Usman, Thanks for posting on our website. I'm sorry I'm responding late - I was travelling the last week and had limited internet access. As far as literature goes, some links I like are: Stuff on Joseph Sheehan : http://www.mnsu.edu/comdis/kuster/pioneers/jsheehan/jsheehan.html Also John Harrison's book " How to conquer your fears of speaking before people" is a good one. Other than that, Hammad's advice is spot on - for you and Mohsin. We could all use this...and if interviews are tough for you, have fun with them. turn it into a game. Apply for jobs you don't necessarily want, just so you can get some practice with interviews. Interviews can be a really tough challenge, but a challenge is always fun to overcome...so i'd say set a goal to do as many interviews in the next month or two as you can, until interviews are a joke for you! :) Enjoy getting better at the sport of speaking! PS: where are you located? you might like to join our support group meeting in Islamabad or Karachi? Regards, julia Date/Time : 11/12/07 01:52:35

ID : 11 Name : Julia Email : j.irani@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Hi Mohsin, WOW! You're becoming a lawyer! that is super - I can see you have a great attitude and you havent let your speech stop you from doing the career that interests you, even though it requires a lot of spekaing! Wow! :) You are such an inspiration! Again, Hammad is spot on with the breathing - this is easier to do if you breathe in and out from your mouth instead of your nose. Anthother thing i'd recommend is for you to join www.toastmasters.org it's a club that practices public speaking. It's a great place to get accustomed to speaking before an audience. There are a few clubs in Pakistan - Karachi and Lahore right now, and possibly a new one starting in Islamabad pretty soon - hammad can keep you posted on that. Hope that helps, Julia Date/Time : 11/12/07 02:01:11

ID : 12 Name : Julia Email : j.irani@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Hi Shariq, Thanks for contacting us and welcome to our team! :) Let me know if you're ever visiting Karachi! Julia Date/Time : 11/12/07 02:04:23

ID : 13 Name : shariq rai Email : shariqrai@yahoo.com Answer : thanks julia for ur reply..its impossible for me to come to karachi..im here in rawalpindi..are u starting any stammering group/club in rawalpindi or islamabad??im too willing to join u if in the federal capital..kindly inform me about ur plans in islamabad rawalpindi..my classes are being started from 14 jan..i want to gain some confidence before the commencement of my classes..NEED FOR UR HELP..bye.. Shariq Date/Time : 11/12/07 10:03:36

ID : 14 Name : Hammad Mansoor Email : h.mansoor@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Don't worry Shariq, I'm very hopeful to start support groups soon in Islamabad/Rawalpindi. Date/Time : 12/12/07 22:21:36

ID : 15 Name : faisal Email : faisal_baloch85@hotmail.com Answer : hi julia i m boundless happy when i watched u on dawnnews today early well, i an doing bba from karchi university i dont have shutter prob but insead of when i try to talk some one else i feel hasitaion in spite of i am not stamterer. some time i feel very bad and dont have dare to confronts the people please so kindly give a good sugguestion so that i can improve my speak and built it. keep in mind best of luck. Date/Time : 15/01/08 23:37:06

ID : 18 Name : omer Email : chaqas@hotmail.com Answer : slaam to all my dear friends.. My name is omer and i also stammer since my child hood.and upto my b.com i never took it seriously .bt now during my MBA..i really get depresed ay the stammer..negative thoughts come across me badly and self ashamed n fear of talking to other people n giving presentation are become the nightmare for me..sorry to say bt 1 tym due to dis i atemt a susidee.too... Bt now i have the power to face it..i am 21 year old 5.10 height handsome luks dats every girl have eyez ome until i speak:-p hehe bt i have changed my self .i feel myself superier ...i know wat the powerz i got i ma brain...before it my fellows bcme ready when i came for my presetation.bt now they smile welcomes me.i give presetation ay coping some1 else style.i have to put a little more effort.bt belive me guys i never stammer a word in dat case .i put a voice recordr in my pocket to asure that after presentation.that i stammer or not.proper breathing helpz alot..and thanx you guys for dvelping such a beautiful place for PWS..now i am cool..i have smile all the tym on my face.my felow mates love me when i copy their style or acent...they say i do it so well n ofcourse widout stammer...remember...YOU ARE WHAT YOU FEEL ABOUT YOU.... Be yourself ..is all that you can do to tell other people...I AM ..WHAT I AM....plz dont care about otherz.they loves us...thanx to all of you...and thats my story...as a person who stammerz:-) yes i am stammeres...and i have more mentel power than anybody else...its you ,,so cure yourself..instead of other to cure you.thanx Date/Time : 16/02/08 04:52:49

ID : 19 Name : Hammad Mansoor Email : h.mansoor@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Omer that's so wonderful to see much potential in you :) That's right - we are what we feel about ourselves. We would be happy to have you on PSA. Where are you located in Pakistan anyway? May be you can join us on one of our support group meetings? Date/Time : 06/03/08 23:48:23

ID : 20 Name : Adnan Ashraf Email : adnan.ashraf@inbox.com Answer : Dear Hammad Mansoor , I am stuttering fellow from Islamabad. I am looking forward to be a member of Pakistan Stammering Association. Please consider my request for Islamabad group. Date/Time : 02/07/08 00:48:06

ID : 21 Name : Khurram Email : khurram682@gmail.com Answer : Dear , I am suffering from stammerand want to join u and am looking forward to be a member of Pakistan Stammering Association. Please consider my request for Karachi group Date/Time : 19/07/08 16:04:16

ID : 22 Name : Subeika Rizvi Email : subeika.rizvi@shell.com Answer : I would just like to appreciate the efforts put in by the team in coming up with this forum, its great! I have always stammered since childhood but mine is not that bad. I am currently emplyed in Shell and doing great. I ahev a daughter and a great family. I cant ask for more. I have really evolved by making myself feel good and not ashamed. Its just a habit you need to get rid of. First i used to avois presentations, public speaking but now i volunteer myself and at times i do strutter but thats fine even the perfect speakers do!! The trick is in knowing yourself, be confident and speak slowly and not unnecessarily. Plz let me know the next forum in Karachi so i may join. Date/Time : 23/02/09 04:47:54

ID : 23 Name : farooq rasheed Email : farooq1_84@yahoo.com Answer : hi i hv stammering problem ,,, plz help me,,,plz i m 24 years old & works in a office & i hv many problems in office due to stemmereing Date/Time : 13/05/09 03:04:59

ID : 24 Name : Adeel Email : dl_raj@yahoo.com Answer : i am 22 years old and i have some serious stuttering problem i stutter on i,e,o,u,s letters plz help me if anyone can can speech therapist cure this problem if yes then let me inform. Date/Time : 24/02/10 02:39:05

ID : 25 Name : Yasir Email : malik_stars3@yahoo.com Answer : iam yasir 22 years old. iam a student of masters.iam a stammer since childhood. iam much worried about it.we are poor and i cannot afford its cure.i want to do a job,but where? what will i do in interveiws? i want to be normal boy.but how? plz sir plz do somethong for me.plz sir plz.plz. 03217130216. contact me through sms.plz sir plz.and aim from sialkot Date/Time : 11/07/10 23:27:40

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