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Father n a Son Dear Julia, Thanks for being a candle of light. I am writing from Peshawar. My son is in his 14th year, for good two years we biked to the speech therapist, the only one around. The boy improved but got fed up with exercises and pressure. Now he stutters, wants to talk fluently, has won several speech contests as well but simple conversation is a problem. Accademically he is doing quite well, God Willing in three months he would be appearing for a competitive exam to a leading boarding school. I would like him to rise with high self esteem, able person and light more candles in his path of life. He has been on homeopathic medicines for stammering,I would like a combination therapy. Kindly advise can keep a weekly phone call arrangement or what do you advise? By : Syed Hussain Mustafa Email : almustafa40@hotmail.com Date/time : 22/12/07 11:34:56

ID : 1 Name : Salman Email : salm28@hotmail.com Answer : HI, This email reminds me of my childhood.... When i tried everything not to stammer .....and whenever i stammered i thought that i have let down my parents ,it was so painful when my parents felt sorry for me .I thought that i doing something wrong and i am responsible for this. Mr.Hussain my name is Salman and i am also from peshawar (living here in UK).I have been able to cure my self with the help of local speech thearapist who uses an approach from one the poineers of stammering reled research.Before i give u a link of some useful website where u can get very very important information about stammering i would like to suggest that please dont make your son feel that he needs to be fluent , make him feel thats its ok to stammer , so it will reduce the pressure on him .This is how i have been able to cure my self........ Go through these websites , very helpful tips. I might be visiting Pakistan soon with my Speech thearapist as we are planning to start a centre over there in Pakistan. web links: http://www.mnsu.edu/comdis/kuster/vanriper/helloworld.html http://www.mnsu.edu/comdis/kuster/pioneers/jsheehan/jsheehan.html I hope it helps. See you Soon. Salman Date/Time : 23/12/07 13:15:44

ID : 2 Name : Hammad Mansoor Email : h.mansoor@pakistanstammering.org Answer : Mr. Mustafa, I understand the problems associated with stammering. I agree with Salman here - do not force your son or let him force himself to be fluent. He just can't be. Don't push him towards something that he can't have. Stammering can be controlled, it is possible. But it requires time and full determination. Please be aware that there is a big difference in being fluent and controlling your stammering. To be honest I sometimes get lazy at my daily exercises and then I suffer. But the thing is, you have to convince him to continue therapy or at least do daily speech exercises. That's one way to get control over your stammering. Another thing, and probably the best thing you can do for him, is to let him attend our support groups. When stammerers see other stammerers and learn about their experiences and share some tips on how to handle a feared word in a difficult situation, then automatically the confidence level of a stammerer rises. I'm saying this from personal experience, and that's the only reason why Stammering associations throughout the world arrange support groups at regular intervals. Also, try to convince him that being a stammerer is not a shortcoming, if you feel confident about it. Your son have to accept that he IS different from fluent speakers. He is part of almost 1% population of the world who stammer. So he is different, but he shouldn't let this difference make him incompetent. The main thing is, stammering does not destroy our lives - we let it destroy our lives. I've seen stammerers who are so successful with everything in life just because they don't care that if they do block what the other person might think of them. If that fear is gone, then most of the problem is solved and the blocks in speech would only be occasional. Honestly speaking I still have this fear in my mind myself, but with time it's gradually going. So everything takes time. Please tell your son to be patient, accept himself as a stammerer and start working on his speech. Treat it as a sport - you have to do daily exercise if you want to be good and fit in the field. About the advice, my first advice would be to attend our support groups with your son, in Karachi or in Islamabad. If you are interested in attending the one in Islamabad, please stay in touch with me as I am trying to arrange one soon, probably in January. For Karachi you have to contact Julia. If you can't attend the support groups, telephone calls can be helpful. Please email me if you need my cellular number, or you can ask Julia. I really appreciate your concern for your son and his speech. I wish you son good luck with his speech wherever he goes :) Date/Time : 23/12/07 14:12:37

ID : 3 Name : Julia Email : j.irani@gmail.com Answer : Dear Mr. Mustafa, thank you so much for visiting our website. I can tell that you see the potential in your son and want the best for him. That love and support is sooo important for any child. I think a weekly phone call arrangement can definitely be arranged. I wanted to clarify...were you thinking of a conference call where a few of us can call in and talk? Or were you just wanting to speak with me? Either one can be arranged. Let me know and I'll get that started immediately. Also, let me know what days/times would work best for you. :) I can also echo Salman's feelings...my parents are the most loving and supportive parents I could ever wish for...but as far as my speech went...I always felt I disappointed them when I stuttered...and I wanted soooo much to be fluent for them. That desire to be fluent was exactly what made me stutter more. I have come a long way since then, but I still have days when I struggle with that love for fluency and my speech suffers. If I could advise you, I'd say make your son feel like he has all the time in the world to speak, that there's no rush, and that there is no need to be fluent. Once he embraces his stammer, and doesn't try to hide it, that he will have the secret to controlling it. Please let me know about when you would like to hold the weekly phone calls and whether you'd like it to be a conference call or not. :) Thank you once again, Julia Date/Time : 23/12/07 21:10:40

ID : 4 Name : Hussain Mustafa Email : almustafa40@hotmail.com Answer : Dear Salman, Mansoor and Julia, Your thoughts, time and suggestions are welcome. Would gradually groove in one by one. I have ur support in experience and guidance available time to time. I would be looking into the website and I think on Saturday/Sunday over the day off if we can develop a telephonic link would be great. Actually I am working in the earthquake hit area so being away hardly gives time to get to support group though Islamabad is hardly far. Telephone can be regular arrangement and sometimes if possible we can catchup at Islamabad. Now conference call, you may better sujjest. I think he can start with one person, work on tips and sometimes supplement with a conference call. This would give firstly 1-1 understanding, decipline and add versatality as well. We can start this Sunday afternoon/evening. My number is 091-5254400 with Pakistan PTCL package this gets economical as well. Salman in UK Har Kala Rasha zama jungarey la Many thanks again for being great in responding, this is noble work and heavenly returns are wished ur way. Best wishes for the new year, may u do well in health n spirit. From a father n a son. Date/Time : 27/12/07 01:52:26

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ID : 6 Name : Mr.Pervez Akhter Masih Email : sundayschoolassociation_pk@yahoo.com Answer : Greetings in the precious name of our lord Jesus Christ we visited your website that inspired me, so that is why we are communicating to you, am Pervez Akhter Masih and doing work among the children's as a registered Interdenominational and non-profit organization in district Sheikhupura of Punjab of Pakistan That mission is to providing resources and training for all Sunday schools and organized the special program for the children's, provide an opportunity to develop personal talent for the Glory of God and to meet human needs in His name without Discriminations. Area of Interest Health Care Peace Interfaith & Harmony Education Vocational Training Center our organization is a new born association we need your guidance Love and support in this regard we shall be grateful to you for this passion, and look forwarding for positive answer in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen In His Grip Mr.Perwaiz Akhter Masih P.O.Box 22 GPO Qila Sheikhupura 39350 Punjab – Pakistan Email:sundayschoolassociation_pk@yahoo.com Office phone: 92-56-6306874 www.ssapk.org Date/Time : 20/08/09 05:40:01

ID : 7 Name : irfan Email : a4aafi01@hotmail.com Answer : tell me solution about my stamer Date/Time : 01/02/10 13:11:27

ID : 8 Name : khalid Email : khalidbodla@hotmail.com Answer : m also stammar,so plz tell me about my better,thanks Date/Time : 15/03/10 23:28:07

ID : 9 Name : kashif Email : kashifpolani77@hotmail.com Answer : my son 7 years of ag do stammering , i am doing speech therapy sine 4 years but no cure, i have heard that there are medicines in homeopathy for this disease, can any one tell me if they knows any doctor in karachi who can help me out thanks Date/Time : 25/04/10 07:24:47

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